The emotional wounds of childhood

No one can give to others what they do not have. Those of us who are aware of this reality have a great responsibility. And while this is true for material matters, it is also true for emotional issues, although with more critical consequences in the latter case. That is to say, material goods are obtained, and that's it, although sometimes it is difficult. Emotional matters can have repercussions as severe as deep depression and its consequences, or, at the other extreme, they increase a person's focus, productivity, and enjoyment to such a level that they become successful in whatever their primary area of ​​performance is.

Well-being or feeling good is an emotion that is not measured by the amount of things a person can consume, as I was traditionally taught in economics school. Instead, it depends exclusively on the interpretation we make of the events that occur around us. That interpretation is based on our "brain programming."

Just as a video game responds in a certain way to commands sent from a controller and allows us to advance and become experts due to its programming, we are also programmed to react in a certain way, meaning there is control and coding.

Awareness of our brain programming is much more complicated than the first sentence I wrote in this post. It's okay if it feels overwhelming at first. Understanding this complexity is the first step towards mastering it. So, don't worry, I hope to awaken your interest before anything else.

The crux of the matter is knowing our coding and, of course, our control. The coding is in the unconscious, and the control resides in the conscious. To modify the programming, we need to become surgeons and operate on our unconsciousness from the conscious with self-awareness exercises such as reflection, mindfulness, RECT, ANC, or NLP. This topic is fascinating, but it is beyond the scope of this blog.

Returning to the "brain programming" housed in the unconscious, thanks to it, we have made the decisions of our lives, progressed or been limited, had success or failures. This "brain programming" was encoded in our first 8 years of life, mainly by our parents, with their best interest.

Our parents, in their great love, have also inadvertently left some deep marks on us. These are the emotional wounds of childhood. They can manifest as feelings of rejection, fear of commitment, or dependence. These wounds are rooted in our parents' five behaviors: rejection, abandonment, humiliation, injustice, and betrayal.

You do not have to feel bad if you identify with any of the roots mentioned above or their consequences. Being aware of this is the first step to overcoming it. The good news is that you are not alone. Many of us belong to that group; I am one of them. We share a common experience, and this shared understanding can be a source of strength and community. This situation has a solution. I will soon discuss in this blog some brain reprogramming tools that help us feel good about the past without affecting or limiting us in our present.